Some people on a since-deleted thread debated this question passionately on both sides of the aisle, arguing that there are benefits to being a good person and, unfortunately, drawbacks as well.

This cycle of people-pleasing undermines genuine connection and respect, as the selfless partner may feel neglected or unappreciated over time. Being good means recognizing and honoring your own ...

1. Being Good Centers on Authenticity, While Niceness Can Rely on People-Pleasing At its core, being “good” means showing up with integrity and authenticity, even when it’s uncomfortable.

I’d pick up trash around my sleeping spot, thank people graciously for their spare ... implications of involvement. That’s what being good does — it paralyzes you with considerations of ...